About Me

HELLO! WELCOME, WON’T YOU SIT DOWN – CAN I GET YOU A TEA OR COFFEE?

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I’m Clare … Clare Foale.

 

I created this space for us Mums to gather and connect as it is what I needed so much in these past few years of my journey through Motherhood – though I didn’t know it at the time.

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Mine is a story about navigating life and finding meaning and beauty in the midst of the chaos of the everyday.

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It’s a journey which has blessed me with 3 gorgeous bubbas and a whole lotta other amazingness and otherwise. It has been, and continues to be, a long and winding journey.

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It has taken some seriously hard work – a whole lot of soul searching, endless trawling of the internet to find out if what I was feeling had a name, counselling, anti depressants for Post Natal Depression (three times), the death of my dear father in law and tiny baby niece, endless hours of kinesiology, reflexology, acupuncture, intensive meditation courses, reading, reflecting, journaling my ass off, speaking, listening, spiritual counselling, a long battle between thinking with my head and ego and listening to my heart.

And all against the backdrop of being a Mum to 3 gorgeous girls, a wife, daughter, sister, friend etc.

 

It has been exhausting and exhilarating; lonely and brilliant. Scary as all hell, and uplifting unlike anything else.

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Writing has become a way for me to get out of my own head and often find some order and meaning in life – which at first glance and experience can be busy and blurry for me.

 

I am hoping that by sharing my journey I can let other Mums know they are not alone; one of the greatest things that has happened as I have started to share my story is that so many other Mums have reached out and said “me too”. Those are some of the most uplifting words I know.

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As I was going through my darkest days I would have given anything to be anywhere else. Now? I know that this is exactly where I am meant to be. For the first time in my life I feel … in the flow … connected to something which is working and lighting me up and energising me in a way I have not known before.

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I wish I could say that was the end of the story, “Happily ever after” etc.

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But it’s not. There are still Good Days, Not So Good Days and downright Red-Flag-Myself Bad Days. Some days I am in my groove and feel like I have it figured out. Other days it all feels so hard and I feel like I am right back at the beginning. Except that I am not.

 

It’s a little chaotic here – there are kids and unwashed dishes aplenty – but there’s also colour and good conversation and interesting, creative little bits, which is pretty wonderful I find.

 

I’m so pleased we found each other xo